Dear Self

Dear Self,

As easy as it is to say, you need to get your head back in the game. You’ve played the same game before, with GCSE’s. You’ve won the dance battle of revision before- you can and need to do it again. If I’m honest with you, you revision effort and focus is only half, or less, than what it was last year. You’ve missed the bigger picture. Despite knowing it, you forgot that A levels are SO much more important than GCSE’s; your A level game should be a step up- not a step down. With three months to go, now is the prime time to level up your revision. Start with your time management; use your time more valuably.

My “new term resolution” is to thoroughly revise quotes during registration time and before school. What’s your “new term resolution”?

New Year Resolutions

With this being my first post of the year, it only felt right to base it on new year resolutions. Yes- the ghastly, overused term- new year resolutions. After a long and tiring year, who wants to start off the new year by making promises to themselves- that they know they’ll never keep? As optimistic as the term “new year resolutions” seems, it’s always just a recipe for failure that inevitably leads to self-disappointment. So, why do we make new year resolutions?

New year resolutions provide us with will-power and enthusiasm that are crucial in convincing ourselves that we can improve ourselves; new year resolutions are the fuel, driving force and kick-start in our journey towards self-improvement.

New year resolutions often feel daunting, when put down on paper or made official, because they are huge commitments (that often require alterations in our everyday habitual lifestyle). Yet, if new year resolutions force us to expose ourselves to new opportunities to improve ourselves, we ought to make more of an effort to follow them through the whole year ahead… and beyond!

My solution is simple; treat everyday like a new year day. Keep that optimistic energy flowing and convert it into your mindset. Let your optimistic energy and mindset react together in a beautifully explosive experiment to produce your success, achievements, pride and happiness.

To my dear readers, I wish you all a very successful year ahead, driven by your optimistic energy.

Mental health begins at physical health

Through the years I have found that my physical health has a significant role in determining my mental health- when I keep fit and healthy, I often feel immensely happier, fulfilled, and optimistic.

In a sense, I feel like being clear from negativity and pure on the inside is a waste if you do not look well on the outside. Keeping my body in shape on the outside helps me to nourish my inner self; it makes me feel like I am fully in control of myself, a feeling that I strongly fear of not having.

There are many things that I do to keep myself physically healthy. Firstly, I have maintained a routine of working out every second day; I do a mixture of strength and endurance exercises, finishing with yoga as a form of stretching. 

Secondly, I am committed to a healthy, balance diet- the kind of diet that doesn’t leave you feeling miserably guilty after each meal. 

Thirdly, I try my best to ensure that I get atleast 8 hours of sleep a day because all-nighters are not worth the headache of colour correcting dark circles and concealing undereye bags. By allowing myself to have my full beauty sleep, I wake up feeling refreshed, allowing myself to be able to function fully throughout the day. 

Finally, I like to spend atleast 5 minutes at the end of my day to just smile as I reflect on all the positive aspects of my day. 

My four steps to physical health are pretty simple, but they work wonders on my state of mind… see for yourself!

Surviving A levels

My jump to A levels wasn’t as smooth as I had expected. I didn’t think it could possibly be as demanding as ab-day or leg-day. I knew that it would be challenging; I knew exactly how challenging it would be, but I convinced myself that I was ready to put my armour on and battle through it. I met with my first defeat within the first day: myself versus English literature.

I thought that I was ready to take on the demands of A levels. I expected to walk in to my lessons, on a bright, early autumnal day, as confident as I was in my GCSE exams- it was raining.

Little did I know that A levels was a whole new game, and I had only started to train for it. Regardless of whether or not you got outstanding GCSE grades, this game isn’t about talent, it’s all about strategy and patience. 

When you start A levels, you aren’t going to know everything. Like myself, you may think that you are only building on existing skills- while this thought is somewhat true, most lessons are crammed with new concepts and new content.

The mass of information that you have to absorb in each lesson is as heavy as the mass of the universe, but it doesn’t have to feel like this. Don’t be so hard on yourself. The key to surviving A levels is in balance and patience.

Don’t stop everything else in your life in an effort to learn an unrealistically great chunk of your course. Balance your time between consistent revision and consolidation and vital leisure time for yourself.

Non-stop studying is not good for you. It’s mentally draining. It’s dangerous. It’s deadly. It’s okay if you don’t understand everything straight away, afterall, you’re still on the first lap of A levels. You just need to keep on swimming.

Success

What does it mean to be successful?

It’s not just about the grades. It’s not just about the memories. It’s not just about the people. Whether good or bad, it’s not just about the experiences. It’s about you.

Being successful is about having an aim or purpose and continuously working towards it. Being successful is about maintaining a focus on your long term goals.

Success involves making each day valuable in achieving your ideal future. Success is a challenge, in a sense that it also involves not letting short term pleasures or downfalls distract you from achieving your aims in life.
Success isn’t a “thing”; it isn’t an end result or product of hard work, whilst hard work is an element of success. Success is a journey– a process of attaining your long term desires.

Voice

I hate reading the news because the news upsets me. It doesn’t mean that I want to live in oblivion. It simply means that I hate reading things that I can’t change or contribute to in any way.

News topics that strike me the hardest are the ones that involve war and conflict. Where there’s war and conflict, there are innocent, helpless victims that are trapped in an unsafe environment. These victims cannot escape. I want to help them escape, but I cannot because its just not safe for me to intervene in such repressive environments.

We live in a world where it isn’t safe for people to live in their own homes. We live in a world where it isn’t safe for us to help and support victims. I find this heartbreaking.

Not matter how passive I feel in these situations, I now know that i’ll never truly be “not helping” or “not contributing”. My insight on the things that we see in the news is precious. Through my voice in discussion, I have a powerful ability to share my insights. My insights might be able to enrich another person’s thoughts; my insights may even prompt another person to completely change their own mentalitity towards various issues.

Your insight can do the exact same. Don’t be afraid to give a voice to your views.

Negativity

We have all been exposed to negativity in some point in our lives. Negativity pulls us down to the ground, drags us in the mud, and sometimes scars our thoughts. Negativity is often the main obstruction in my mind.

We can’t avoid negativity, or protect ourselves from negativity. One way or another, negativity always hits us.

But we can deal with the aftermath. We can analyse the evidence of what has disheartened us to uncover the root cause of unhappiness and negativity.

Evaluating an investigation of your emotions can be quite an interesting experience. I’ve found that many of my investigations have resulted in lifechanging outcomes- a decision to simply abandon the cause of negativity.

Why don’t you try investigating your emotions?

The importance of escapism

There are things that happen around us that are beyond our control, such as war, death, crime, and poverty. There are other things that can happen, that we may have some influence in, such as falling out with a friend. All forms of these events can make us feel despondent, disconsolate, and alone. 

When you are in a state of desolation, it is necessary to find something to temporarily distract you, or you would just rapidly shatter. Escapism provides you with this distraction; escapism provides you with a net to catch and cradle you, if you fall.

Escapism can take place in any form, whether by reading or by listening to music. However, there are some dangerous forms of escapism (such as drug and alcohol misuse) that we must resist, even in times of desperation. We all know the physical, social, and psychological effects of drug and alcohol misuse- it provides you with a frayed net, with a giant hole in the middle. 

Escapism is good, and escapism is vital… But don’t become a victim of dangerous escapism.

People

Why do we need people around us? People can hurt us, upset us, or disappoint us… But let’s not forget that most people do more good than harm to us.

People offer us with new interpretations, to help us widen our own understanding of the world. People comfort us, in times of desperate need. People distract us, when distractions can actually be useful to us.

People provide us with company. Without people, you’d be lonely, and loneliness is the most agonising, exhausting, and draining emotion. Loneliness is trap. Loneliness makes you feel like you’re at the bottom of a dark ditch, alone. But people can rescue you, with their ladder and their light, from the bleakness of loneliness. 

Don’t be afraid to open up to the people around you.

Mindset

Having a mindset is crucial in being successful. Without a mindset, having goals and a purpose is pointless; your mindset is your drive in life. 

What is a mindset? A mindset is defined as being: the established set of attitudes held by someone. What is my mindset? Positivity is at the roots of my mindset.For me, my family, friends and aspirations to be successful keep me positive; thus, they branch out from my mindset. 

Find what makes you happy, and use it as the seed for your mindset.